Sunday April 8, 2012

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Bullyproof your daughter April 18 with Empowered by Horses

Submitted by Carla Webb & Sharolyn Wandzura, EBH

 



We had a very successful February and March in terms of reaching out to more parents and girls. We were grateful to the Abbotsford Times Newspaper for spending some time chatting on the phone with us before printing information about our "Bully Free Your Daughter' presentation we hosted on Pink Shirt Day, February 29, 2012. The presentation was fantastic and we were super pleased to get this very touching email a few days later from one of our guests who attended. Here is what she shared;

".....last week, one of the participants went home and talked to her teen daughter about your program to support young women to be assertive and strong. Her daughter listened and then shared with her mom that she had experienced bullying at her school. Her mom said it was the first time they had been able to talk about that. I was touched and moved by this story and wanted you to know that you are making a difference!"

This is exactly why we are so passionate about what we do. We know that our mission of creating Bully Free Communities can begin with one conversation at a time. We have two more 'Bully Proof Your Daughter' events lined up for April!



Abbotsford: 7pm on April 18, 2012
Vancouver: 7pm on April 26, 2012

There is no cost for this presentation if you sign up in advance or tickets are $15 at the door. We look forward to seeing you there! To reserve your seat, please click on this link www.BullyProofYourDaughter.com

"Bully" - New Documentary
This year, over 5 million American kids will be bullied at school, online, on the bus, at home, through their cell phones and on the streets of their towns, making it the most common form of violence young people in this country experience. The Bully Project is the first feature documentary film to show how we've all been affected by bullying, whether we've been victims, perpetrators or stood silent witness. The world we inhabit as adults begins on the playground. The Bully Project opens on the first day of school. For the more than 5 million kids who'll be bullied this year in the United States, it's a day filled with more anxiety and foreboding than excitement. As the sun rises and school busses across the country overflow with backpacks, brass instruments and the rambunctious sounds of raging hormones, this is a ride into the unknown. For a lot of kids, the only thing that's certain is that this year...

We were first made aware of this upcoming documentary a few weeks ago. Bully will be playing at the International Village Cineplex Odeon Theater in downtown Vancouver on April 13. We will be attending if you are interested in joining us to show support for this real life story that will certainly create more awareness on the issue of bullying.

Watch the trailer here.

New from the Herd: Mini Update
Fable and Lulu continue to grow their relationship and connection with the rest of the Empowered By Horses herd. We have been gently easing them into new learning environments which they are responding to very willingly. We are confident they will be gracious and diligent little teachers to girls and adults alike. Lulu will be taking part in an agility clinic (yes there is now
agility for horses - and not just minis I might add) at the end of April which will result in more photos and videos. We are planning to incorporate a few exercises using agility in our upcoming programs. STAY TUNED!

Watch a video of Shady playing with Lulu and Fable here.
 


Stop the Bullying - Telling the teacher

5 Steps to take if your child is being bullied: Tell her teacher

1) Arrange for you and your daughter to meet with the appropriate person at the school. If there is an anti-bullying policy in place it may be a specific person that is trained to intervene effectively. It is important for your daughter to be part of the solution to the bullying, without active involvement, your daughter may feel further disempowerment.

2) We mentioned in an earlier newsletter the importance of gathering the specifics around the bullying incidents in writing (the date, time, place, kids involved and the specifics of what was said or done) AND be sure to include the various ways the bullying has affected your daughter.

3) Work with your daughter and the school to create a plan to determine what she needs right now to feel safe, how she can avoid further bullying and stand up for herself and who she can go to for help. This plan will also include the adults role in keeping her (and other targets) safe and stop any further incidents.

4) Inquire as to what procedures the bully will be going through and what type of support the school is expecting from the parents of the bully. You may want to discuss the possibility of you daughter meeting the bully at a later date for "reconciliation" a further process of healing down the road. (more on this in the next newsletter)

5) If you feel the problem is not being dealt with effectively by the school, know that you can express your concerns by letting the teacher and/or administration that you will be taking your concerns to the school board district office if necessary. You may also consider getting the police involved as well. The bottom line is that your daughter has the right to be educated
in an environment that is free of fear and harassment.

From The Bully the Bullied and the Bystander by Barbara Coloroso
 

Heart Centered Leadership For Girls


Learn out how Empowered By Horses can help you and your family online at: www.empoweredbyhorses.com or by e-mail here.

 



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